Sharing some thoughts about Ceara Lynch for “Ruin Me”

Recently, Director Julian Shaw, “Ruin Me” asked my opinion regarding Ceara Lynch, her persona, her profession, and her business. Below are some of the thoughts I provided.

Why did you choose to start a blog about Ceara?

I originally was going to do a blog about my findom experiences; thought it would be a good way to make sense of some of the nuances and complexities of online FINDOM I’ve thought about over the years. But soon realized that I really wasn’t ready to (1) reveal that sort of intimate introspection to the public, (2) the blog would quickly become one-dimensional, and (3) it probably wouldn’t appeal to a large audience. So the thought struck me that examining various aspects of Ceara’s online persona … the persona she projected intertwined with the frequent insights she offered of her personal thoughts and life … would allow me to express and examine my thoughts and experiences about FINDOM within the context of an infinitely more interesting person than myself.

Comment on how Ceara has deliberately constructed her online persona.

Well, I think if you go back and look at her web presence (and clips) over the years, you can discern an evolution and maturity in her persona. Whereas the early persona had a lot of ‘fuck you, pay me’ tinge to it; her presence today is more refined. Personally, I find her current persona much more appealing. Less brat; more femme fatale. I think she has discovered that seducing men is financially and psychologically rewarding; more so than say a one-dimensional bitch that simply demands money and submission from “losers.”

You say the Ceara Lynch persona is apolitical, but she has certainly inspired some politically minded discourse (you mention the Breitbart article for instance). Please discuss this phenomenon.

Well, within two days of posting my “Politics, Morality, and Sin” blog (the blog in which I say her persona is apolitical) she tweeted a picture of her marked up U.S. presidential ballot … with the comment … “Repeat after me. That’s an order.” So I was pretty much wrong about her persona being ‘apolitical’.

That said, aside from that one tweet, any other political (or judgmental) comment is rare. Social media have turned into a vehicle for people to voice their unsolicited opinion about a variety of topics; with politics being among the more passionate arena. Political comments (and sport comments, for that matter) often turn toxic and venom filled; people both offend and become offended. Commenters exploit the “Three A’s” of internet interaction … anonymity, accessibility, affordability (i.e., there are no repercussions for comments, no matter how vile or hate filled.) Two of those “A’s” can’t be exploited by Ceara … anonymity and affordability. Disagreeable political comments will impact both her market image and her bottom line. So I think she wisely keeps her web presence apolitical.

What do you perceive as the difference between Ceara the character and the real person behind the character?

I like to think the real Ceara is more of a romantic than her persona; someone not as cynical or as uncaring as the character she plays. Although I don’t know Ceara the person, I imagine her with many of the traits her persona displays … grounded, secure, confident (but not arrogant), intelligent. I also see her with weaknesses never displayed by her persona … the usual human weaknesses … unsure, confused, and emotionally befuddled at times. I don’t see her as greedy or hurtful. She is compassionate, loving, and willing to forgive. She knows hurting is part of living, so she doesn’t dwell on things that disrupt her life. She’s not bored; living life interests her. She’s not extravagant, in dress or lifestyle, but has a mind that’s just a little quirky and twisted. She likes horror movies; is not big on romantic comedy. In some ways, she’s both the “son” her father always wanted, and the little Princess he adores.

Briefly place the Ceara Lynch character into an American historical context.

As an entrepreneur and business person, she is the embodiment of America; i.e., exploiting new technology, inventing new markets, where hard work meets opportunity to create success. That said, she is the antitheses of the norm; an independent woman succeeding on a path usually reserved (or at least expected to be followed) only for men. She not a legacy of 1980’s feminism, more it’s step-child. She could be a standard bearer for gender equality if she wasn’t working so hard at being better than equal. That “can-do, damn-the-torpedoes, got-new-frontiers-to-explore” competitiveness is the essence of what America perceives itself to be.

She’s Huck Finn in a dress.

You mention the Ancient Greeks in your blog – describe the antecedents to the Ceara Lynch persona.

The Ceara Lynch persona is the quintessential femme fatale. She charms and ensnare men, often leading them into compromising, dangerous, and deadly situations. Her ability to entrance and hypnotize her victim with a spell was in the earliest days seen as being literally supernatural; hence, the femme fatale today is still often described as having a power akin to an enchantress, seductress, vampire, witch, or demon, having power over men. She achieves her hidden purpose by using feminine wiles such as beauty, charm, and sexual allure. Her traits include promiscuity and the “rejection of motherhood,” seen as “one of her most threatening qualities since by denying his immortality and his posterity it leads to the ultimate destruction of the male.” She is morally ambiguous, and evokes a sense of mystification and unease. Ancient mythical or legendary examples include Mohini, Lilith, the Sirens, Aphrodite, Circe, Medea, Lesbia and Helen of Troy. Historical examples from Classical times include Cleopatra as the Biblical figures Delilah, Jezebel and Salome. The femme fatale is everywhere in American literature, film and television.

Please expand on the idea of ‘play/fantasy vs reality’ in her work. Does Ceara ever blur the lines?

With regards to the “Ceara Lynch Experience”, I think the best way to differentiate ‘play’ from ‘reality’ is to by understanding the role suffering plays when she interacts with her clients. During absolute play, there is no suffering. It is a completely enjoyable experience with no harmful consequences. For those infrequent times when play might cross over into reality, some suffering for the client might ensue; be it physically, mentally, or financially. Ceara Lynch’s talent is that she is able to get close to the edge between play and reality without crossing it. She shies away from causing suffering, routinely rejecting appeals from masochists to cause on inflict it on them.

Does Ceara in fact offer a psychological/therapeutic service to some customers?

If you’re asking if there is any socially redeeming qualities to Ceara Lynch’s service, I suppose she provides an outlet for men to play out some of their less traditional erotic fantasies. And, as I mentioned in an earlier blog, she offers some men temporary relief from loneliness and boredom. I don’t really know if those have any psychologically therapeutic value, however.

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